En una encuesta realizada por Mamasta Select sobre lo que es importante en la vida matrimonial, la mayoría de los encuestados consideraron crucial que en la convivencia se puedan combinar las cosas que no les gustan. El 54.6% mencionó que es importante combinar tanto las cosas que gustan como las que no. Algunas personas también destacaron la importancia de tener valores y preferencias financieras similares en la pareja para evitar conflictos. En general, se concluyó que respetar los gustos y preferencias de la pareja es fundamental para mantener una relación armoniosa a pesar de las diferencias.
When it comes to maintaining a marriage, what do you think is important? Consideration for others, alignment of values, and education policies may be important factors for families with children. That’s why Mama Star Select conducted a survey focusing on couples’ values, asking “In marriage, which is more important: likes or dislikes?” The possible answers were “Align with what you like (dislikes don’t matter),” “Align with what you dislike (likes don’t matter),” and “Other.” 500 people shared their honest thoughts.
The majority of respondents believe that it’s important to be able to accommodate dislikes in marriage
The most common response was “Combining likes with dislikes.” A majority of mothers, 54.6%, believe that combining dislikes is more important than aligning with likes.
“Enjoy what you like. But, it’s easy to see what you don’t like.”
“Having different likes and dislikes can lead to stress for both parties.”
Many people believe that having different dislikes can lead to significant mental burden, such as “It’s more stressful to tolerate dislikes” and “It’s important not to compromise on dislikes.”
“It’s possible to accept different likes, but it’s essential not to compromise on dislikes.”
While it’s possible to calmly accept what the other person likes, not understanding or acknowledging dislikes can lead to conflicts.
Almost 40% prefer to align with their own preferences
On the other hand, there are mothers, 36%, who believe that aligning with likes is more important even if dislikes differ.
“Love increases happiness. It’s better to like something more than not liking the same thing.”
There is some truth to this perspective.
“Doing what you like can improve your mood, so it’s better to have fun things in common.”
“Enjoying the same things together”
Some families may have common hobbies or support the same sports team. Certainly, engaging in activities together as a couple or family can be much more enjoyable than doing them alone.
“Deciding on dinner or date locations is easy. Don’t fight.”
Some people believe that having similar preferences for places to go and things to eat can clarify the purpose of outings and make planning easier.
Alignment in financial sense is crucial
9.4% of mothers selected “Other” instead of “Combining with dislikes” or “Aligning with likes.”
“Financial sense and cleanliness.”
“If financial sense doesn’t align, it’s difficult to live together for long.”
Some individuals emphasized the importance of financial alignment, particularly in terms of prioritizing and spending money. For many mothers who manage household finances, having similar financial values is a pressing issue. Differing economic standards, especially regarding children’s education expenses, such as how much to spend on lessons or which school to attend, can lead to conflicts if not in sync between spouses.
Every couple has their own dynamic
Mothers who responded to the survey may have been married at least once. Whether or not their marriages lasted, the values that mothers consider important in married life are convincing.
“My husband and I have different likes and dislikes, but we always respect each other.”
“Since we don’t have common interests in likes and dislikes, we agreed not to negate each other’s preferences.”
Even if likes and dislikes differ, it’s essential not to invalidate each other’s values. Many believe that this is the key to maintaining a peaceful marriage.
Even among spouses, differences in values are inevitable in relationships. Couples alone know how to accept these differences.
“My husband and I don’t get along at all, but we’ve been happily living together without major fights for 10 years.”
There are couples like that as well. Any number of couples can work.
Total Responses: 500 votes
Survey Method: Internet
Survey Month: March 2024
Survey & Analysis: Mama Star Select Editorial Team
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Written by the Editorial Team, Illustrated by Ponko