授業後、子供たちが自由時間を楽しむ際に、他の子供が突然訪問し、家に無許可で入ってきておやつを食べる状況についての相談があります。他の人からの意見では、厳格なルールを子供に教え、訪問する際の基本ルールを明確にする必要があると指摘されています。保護者が関与し、学校に連絡して対応することで子供の行動をコントロールすることが重要だという意見もあります。これにより、再度の問題を防ぐために必要な対策を講じることができるでしょう。
After school, children have free time. They may make plans to play and get excited. However, there are times when mothers themselves get into trouble, such as not being able to consult with parents or having difficulty with how children play at home. A question from a mom in the Mama Star community:
“When school is over, a girl around the same age as my 1st-grade daughter comes to my house carrying a school bag. She says she has a date at school and suddenly comes without informing her mother, saying it’s okay. She enters the house without permission, opens the refrigerator, and starts eating snacks and ice cream. My house is right next door, but she doesn’t even know her parents, so I don’t know how much I should be concerned. Is this something I should take care of?”
Your daughter has made plans to play with a friend and is supposed to come to the poster’s house after school. However, since she still has her backpack on, it is clear that she hasn’t gone home yet. Moreover, she even eats snacks on her own when at home. If there is a rule at school that says “No going out after school,” you can tell the child to “obey the rules,” but judging by the sign’s behavior, there is probably no such rule. Some may think it’s because the child is in 1st grade, but in this case, what would other mothers do?
It’s best not to let her in the house.
“First of all, it’s better not to enter from the entrance! The intercom didn’t ring even though it was there. Or do you have something you need to do.”
“Just because it suddenly increased, does that mean you can’t stop them like a 1st-grade girl? Children who don’t follow the rules of the house will be banned from entering and exiting.”
Even if the child comes home, there is no need for the poster to worry too much if she doesn’t let her in the house. You can close the front door and not open it even if the doorbell rings, or you can say through the doorbell, “I have something to do, so we can’t play.” Since she is in 1st grade, she will probably follow if adults strongly say, “You can’t play.”
I also want to be careful with my daughter.
“You should teach your daughter not to let children who don’t follow the rules into the house.” “Personally, I don’t want anything like that to happen to my daughter, so I explain exactly what the problem is to her.”
“If you want to play, finish your homework and meet at the park after playing.”
A boy has come to the house to play with the daughter. Your daughter may want to play after school, but it might be best to honestly tell her that she can’t let a child who can’t follow the rules into the house. By explaining the rules, even a 1st grader should be able to understand. You can also give specific rules like “Finish your homework at home before playing after school” or “Don’t come back from the park.” This way, your daughter can learn the rules when visiting a friend’s house.
I think it’s best to contact the school and inform the parents.
“You must contact the homeroom teacher immediately.” “If you tell the school that you are troubled by the child coming directly from school, they will surely contact the parents.”
When the parents are notified, the child will no longer come to play immediately after school. However, the most important thing is that the parents may not be aware of their child’s behavior. It’s best to contact the parents first, but if you don’t know their contact information or where they live, you can also consult the school. Some schools have rules that children can only play after returning home after school. Parents may also worry if the child comes home late. It’s reassuring to be able to communicate with the parents.
If you don’t clearly convey the rules, the same thing may happen repeatedly.
“It suddenly went up. Enter the room without permission. Open the refrigerator and start eating snacks. You need to pay attention to all of these. And if you do that, I will clearly tell you that you are not allowed to enter my house.”
“Absolutely do not let them in the house. “It doesn’t matter if they’re friends. Children who do not follow the rules of the house will not be allowed to play inside the house, and when scolding, they will scold properly.”
The daughter’s friend keeps coming to the house and repeatedly enters the room and opens the refrigerator to eat snacks. If you don’t pay close attention to these things, the same thing may happen again. First and foremost, the poster needs to take a firm stance.
However, on the other hand, it is also difficult to know how to handle children. If they are strictly scolded, they may cry or feel upset. However, children may think of the poster’s house as their own and may not understand what is wrong with their actions. Considering that it is in the best interest of the children to be attentive, isn’t it important to clearly convey the rules through signs?
Author: Komomo Editor: Miho Arimura Illustration: Ponko