夫が飲みに行った際、お土産を買ってくることでお母さんに気遣いを見せるが、内容によっては不満を抱くこともある。あるママスタコミュニティでは、夫がお土産を求めてきた際に、予算を超えるゼラチンを注文したら夫が不機嫌になり、困惑する場面が描かれている。それでも、予想外のミスながらも夫の気遣いは伝わる。喧嘩を避けつつ、お互いに気配りをして楽しいエピソードを作ることが大切というメッセージが残る。
When her husband goes out drinking, he often buys gifts for her mother to show consideration. Some husbands ask for the mother’s preferences beforehand, but may still be discontent with the content. A question like this was received from a mother in the Mama Star community.
“My husband asked me if I wanted anything as a souvenir when he went out drinking, so I honestly requested something to eat, but he made a big fuss saying ‘it’s expensive.’ I ordered gelatin, which costs around 800 yen each, and asked, ‘Are you going to buy that for me?’ If not, should I order it myself? Please let me know what type of gelatin it is, but he didn’t ask me anything.”
When asked by her husband if she wanted a gift, the poster honestly asked for gelatin. However, the price seemed higher than what her husband expected… and she felt dissatisfied. Since it was her husband who asked about the gift, the mother was also puzzled.
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“If he said that, he should have just asked from the beginning, ‘Do you have any preferences?’ “
Some husbands become grumpy while asking for gift requests. In that case, it might be better not to ask for requests in the first place. Your husband probably has a budget in mind, so it would be good for you to decide based on that amount.
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“I’m ultimately planning on buying it, so please forgive me. If you say, ‘If that’s the case, I don’t need it in the first place,’ please don’t ask. That would just lead to unnecessary arguments. I learned this after being married for 25 years.”
Some people want to rebel against their husband’s attitude but worry that using confrontational words may just lead to a fight. And it might hurt your husband. Since your husband took the time to talk to you, it’s better to appreciate his consideration.
He was probably surprised by the unexpected reaction from his wife’s mother.
“Even though I used to say ‘I don’t need anything,’ he bought ice cream from the convenience store. So, his plan was probably like, ‘She’ll probably say she doesn’t need it,’ right?” “This time, I don’t need it either, but I will be careful to buy dessert at the convenience store on my way home.” “So he ended up buying gelatin for 800 yen at the store, probably because he was curious.” Since it was unexpected.”
It seems that the husband was asking if there were any gift requests from the mother. At that time, even though it was written that no gift was needed, the husband still bought ice cream at the convenience store. So he probably thought the same would happen this time as well. If it’s a convenience store, he can stop by on the way back and buy something within the budget. However, this request was unexpected, so he was probably surprised.
How will you respond to your husband?
The poster’s husband said he will contact her later, but how should she respond in this case?
“So, what can I buy then?” I asked.
First, the husband asks for a gift. In response to this question, the poster simply answered, “800 yen gelatin.” However, if the husband gets upset, what would make him happy to buy for you? You can also suggest what he can buy for you, considering the price and type.
“If you make a fuss about spending over 800 yen, you’ll get mad. I’m going to buy the gelatin for 800 yen and I’ll let you know.”
It’s also the husband’s fault for not explaining when he asked about the budget initially. Since the husband is the one who first brings up buying a gift, it’s best to have him buy what you want regardless of the price.
The husband bought gelatin for her. However, it was unexpected!
“I replied to my husband’s email, ‘I don’t need it after all,’ and went to bed with my son first.” Later, when I went to the living room to get diapers, there was a box that looked like a gift, and my husband said with a smile, ‘I bought jelly.’ Various gelatins as gifts. It was probably more expensive. Since it was funny to see him always making mistakes when I asked for something, there was no quarrel, and I was grateful for the jelly.”
In the end, her husband bought gelatin for her. But it turned out to be an assortment of jelly that she would like to give as a gift. This surprised the poster and even made her laugh. Although she initially ordered a gelatin for 800 yen each, the gelatin her husband bought seemed more expensive. Her husband is said to make mistakes in shopping, and this time resulted in an unexpected outcome… However, his consideration for the poster is evident. He would buy what her mother asked for, even if he was in a bad mood, showing that he is a very considerate husband. It was quite a touching story.
Written by: Komomo Edited by: Kukage Illustration by: Mamebi